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When I was growing up, in the context in which I grew up (in the 1970s and 1980s, in an area of lily-white folks of mixed economic class), if someone used the phrase “the talk,” they were referring to the one about sex. You know the one. In that time, if you got it at all, your parents sat you down, maybe with a book, and from a place of mortified near-incapacitation, explained “the birds and the bees” as briefly and cursorily as they possibly could. If they got to you early, maybe they told you something you didn’t already…


Please stop saying “this is not who we are.”

My title is a pun on a Dungeons & Dragons term, for readers who may not be familiar. A “saving throw” is a die roll you make in response to an attack, to discover how much damage has been done to you. The die roll is compared to an “ability score” that indicates how much capacity you have to handle the particular type of attack. Constitution, in game terms, is health and vibrancy (like saying a hardy person has “a strong constitution”). So the pun is really quite perfect as a…


A reflection on Christmas from a Unitarian Universalist

I wrote a sermon for my UU congregation in 2017, for the first Sunday of Advent. What follows here is that sermon, with a number of updates and adjustments for the state of the world in 2020. This Christmas is going to be a whole new level of complicated, and now feels like a good time to revisit this message….

So. Here we are.

The holiday season has arrived once again. Every kid under the age of ten has been waiting for eleven months for this. …


A much-needed total departure from current events

Like most everyone in America who is actually paying attention right now, I am exhausted, enraged, and deeply in need of a change of scenery. So I’m going to write about something that has absolutely nothing to do with politics, religion, race, or socioeconomics: how I learned to be a good enough cook that I often surprise myself.

Lest I be accused of passing off any of this wisdom as my own, let me be clear that most of what I know about cooking that actually matters, I learned from Alton Brown. All…


A sermon delivered to Mosaic UUC on June 28, 2020

“We all had a collective feeling like we’d had enough of this kind of shit. It wasn’t anything tangible anybody said to anyone else, it was just kind of like everything over the years had come to a head on that one particular night in the one particular place, and it was not an organized demonstration… Everyone in the crowd felt that we were never going to go back. It was like the last straw. It was time to reclaim something that had always been taken from us…. All kinds…


A radical, unapologetic, immodest proposal

The phrase “defund the police” is getting a lot of traction around the country, and predictably, a lot of people are freaking out about what it means. Republican pundits are making sure that mild-mannered soccer moms believe it means total anarchy and the downfall of civilization. …


A sermon delivered to Mosaic Unitarian Universalist Congregation, May 17, 2020

Along my journey to becoming a leadership coach, I learned a lot about how people’s brains work. Of course brains are pretty complicated, so there are people who make whole careers out of translating the complexity of brain function into models that mere mortals like us can actually use. One of those models describes two modes of thinking — possibility thinking, and necessity thinking. A necessity thinker does most of what they do in hopes of avoiding negative consequences. For example, they complete a project so they won’t miss…


And that’s the problem.

A few days ago I wrote this story about my experience with a conservative white male politician. And I confessed in that story that although I fiercely disagreed with almost every word that came out of his mouth, and indeed found myself in full-on fight-or-flight fury before that call concluded, I barely said anything back to him. Partly that was because his position was so outrageous to me that I was literally speechless. And part of it was because I know, both intuitively and intellectually, that there’s just no point. Here’s why.

Tony Robbins (and many…


and what it taught me about the current mindset of conservative white men

It seemed like a small, simple thing I could do. I sent an email message to the members of a county council. (Names withheld, not because I don’t want to call this guy out — I very much do — but because it doesn’t matter. There are 63 million more just like him and the point of this piece is to call out their collective BS, not to vilify any particular one of them.) …


Coping (sometimes, and sometimes not) with Corona

“Of course it’s all in your head, Harry. Why should that mean it isn’t real?”

-Dumbledore

Something about everything “going Virtual” is starting to eat away at my sanity, and not just because of the isolation. Yes, the fact that my whole life has imploded into Zoom is itself enough to drive me a little funny in the head. But lately it feels like there’s more to it than that.

Past a certain point, when all the things you’re used to doing “in real life” are now basically just a 24-hour TV show that’s frankly not all that interesting, it starts to feel like nothing at all is…

Tracy Lunquist

Comforting the afflicted and afflicting the comfortable. Buy me a Coke Zero: https://ko-fi.com/mousketracy0193

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